He patiently explains to them that the group is actually for gay men in heterosexual marriages. The straight spouse understandably becomes angry at the gay spouse for not being able or willing to go back into the closet. From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia. After reading the book "Straight Wives, Shattered Lives," by Bonnie Kaye,I realize that the longer I withhold this truth from her, the more damage I am doing to her life. Her response each time has been to turn around on me, re-position herself as the victim, and then to ignore my questions. There ought to be a "Check-list for Readers Who Wonder" about these numbers. Gay people think that you should come out and divorce, otherwise you are keeping a foot in heterosexual privilege.
The gay husbands are complacent. He claims he is "depressed" and will blame his depression or medication for depression for his lack of sexual desire for you. East Dane Designer Men's Fashion. Getting back to my point, once we feel confident that our husbands aren't gay, we start wondering why our marriages seem "off-track.
Any other natural failures of straight marriages are not applicable here because your life is a distortion when your husband is gay. Life is still out there for you to take. Okay, maybe they did seem a little different when you were alone, but living with you could be frustrating, couldn't it? Showing of 40 reviews.
Cheating almost always comes as a shock to the husband or wife. As long as they remain relatively OK, this is great. Yes, they need to take responsibility for not having come out sooner and avoided heterosexual marriage. The book is a compendium of the outlandish rationalizations that a closeted homosexual uses to keep his secret hidden. Yes it is totally possible and many couples do it. Marriage has taught us to be better friends, better listeners to others, and more open to considering opinions other than our own. They don't just crash down out of the sky in front of you like Space-Lab.